At night when the stars light up my room, I sit by myself, talking to the moon. Tonight is a very special night for me, and it's Kojagiri Pournima (Sharad Pournima as some might say). Ever since a child, year after year, we celebrate this day by sitting in the night flooded with the light of the full moon, drinking milk. Since moon is supposed to be closest to the earth on this day, the moon rays are said to have curative properties. The vessel containing the sweet is prepared and left in the moonlight to be consumed later. According to Ayurveda, the `pitta' or acidity aggravates at the end of the monsoon season. This is the reason why cooling foods are recommended to neutralise the pitta and balance it. The consumption of cold milk and rice flakes is supposed to be a good remedy for pitta. Coming back , I remember my mother would make me sit by the window,...
I'm sure you've heard of this game. Well if not, let me tell you. A person tells you three things about himself. One of them is a lie and other two are true. You guess the lie, and thats it. I think our entire life can be categorised as two truths and a lie. We can guess the lie, but we also have 4 options, either believe its the truth or believe its a lie, even efter knowing the lie we can keep pretending it's the truth, and even if we know it's the truth, we say its a lie because we trust our instincts.
Haven't we all lied at some point ? Hell, I've lied just to stay back home because I was too lazy to go to school. Everybody lies. Everybody tells the truth, according to their convenience, or probably it's the truth. How do we know which one is which? Many promise to stay in touch and never stay. Many promise you the world but never try their best. Many people lie.Maybe its the truth at that point but later it converts into a lie. But the question is, how do we distinguish between 2 truths and that one big fat lie ? Is it solely dependant on our instincts or facts have a say in this too ? If two truths and a lie were a real game, who wins and who loses ? the one who caught the lie and has had his quota of bad experiences or the one who said its the truth, hes been happy, but always kept doubting if it is actually the truth ?
But researchers say there is a lot we get wrong about deception, truth-telling and trust—and that, if mastered, lying the right way can actually help build connections, trust and businesses. “I believe that we should be teaching our kids, students and employees when and how to lie,” says Maurice Schweitzer, a professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, who studies deception and trust.
Is it really worth it though?
I think if an entire relationship, whether it's personal or professional, is based on a lie, it's like the worst form of an assault, really. How can we build a solid base if its not even the truth?
Some say the truth is always better than lies. Some say it's okay to lie if it's for the greater good. Are these the only options? Or is there an invisible field where one can do both and not affect anyone. If its either this or that, how do we know ? Has is always been black or white, or we can get shades of grey too ?
I say truth is always better than lying, be it harsh, be it soft. We can only get to choose how to bring out the truthfulness. We can lie, but only for a good surprise. Nothing more, nothing less. As Buddha says, three things can never stay hidden, the sun, the moon and the truth.
In the tug of war between truth and lies, which side do you wanna pick?
Lemme know.
Until then, ask no questions and you'll be told no lies.
~ Anu
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